Tenacity to Purpose

I was having an interesting conversation with a group of girls during supper the other night, and we were basically talking about how sometimes not everybody around you will appreciate you for who you are. And that is a normal thing, you won’t be friends with everybody that you come across and sometimes we forget this. We want to be liked so much, we want to be part of a group, and we want to belong somewhere. This is a normal human desire, we were wired for connection and intimacy but sometimes we allow this desire to have power over us. What do I mean by this? Well, I think that the worst thing that could happen would be to change yourself in order to fit in with a group of people or with one person. Having to change yourself in order to fit in is a full time job. You always have to be mindful of what you’re saying, what you’re wearing and how you’re acting. But you’ll find that you’ve been through such a horrible experience that you’ve decided that being yourself is no longer t...

Over the last two weeks I’ve just been made really aware of the fact that you can really start despising your life based on how you see other people’s lives portrayed. Social media is basically just for the Kodak moments. The moments that are great and worth capturing. When the lighting is just right, the make-up is on fleek, the outfit is popping. But you don’t know what happened five minutes before that picture was taken, or what season that person is in. If you pay too much attention on what people post on social media then you will make yourself an expert on their lives. All of a sudden you know what their favourite meal is, where they go to school, what time they wake up, who they are in a relationship with. And you can spend so much time just trying to keep up with them and trying to dissect their lives that you literally spend more time and effort on their lives while you neglect yours.  You can’t look out of your kitchen window every morning while drinking your coffee,...

I read a quote on Instagram earlier this week by  +StephanSpeaks  and it said the following; "Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have." I agree with this quote 100%. I want to add that when you don't know where you, where you want to be, and what your values are, then it becomes difficult to figure out where everyone is going to stand in relation to where you are. It becomes difficult for you to even set up boundaries because you don't know what your values are or what you're aiming for in life. In order to know what roles people are supposed to play in your life, you need to know what it is that you need from them. A lot of times we allow other people to tell us where we are and where we need to be. Sometimes we need wise counsel when we can't figure it out for ourselves. But when we rely on others, we end up with their thoughts and their perspective of us as our foundation, which we then build on. Even the way ...

I watched her as she marveled at what was before her.  She stood on the window sill and watched as the rain poured.  There was a mixture of fear and excitement in her eyes. As she wondered where it began. While watching it come to an end on the ground.  She reached her hand out the window so she  Could catch the raindrops before they hit the ground.  She grabbed at them one by one and  Burst into laughter as if the best joke had been told. As she jumped off the window sill I got a little bit sad. I thought that her amazement had come to an end. But then I realised that she wanted to run outside. So that she could be immersed in it.  So that she could stare at it as it landed on her face  Like snow on Christmas morning.  She did not know that it could give her a cold.  She did not know that she would have to change her clothes.  In that moment it was just her and the rain.  And it m...

Yesterday while driving home my family and I came across a really heavy rain. It was an intense hail storm. You could barely see in front of you. Now, I must admit, my first thought was "why don't we just pull over and wait for it to stop?" Because it was scary. But my father is an experienced driver, and safety is always first on his list so I thought that if he thought we should keep going then we probably should. Five minutes later we were out of the rain and back to clear skies. And my mom said something that kind of blew my mind. She said "imagine all the people that decided to stop in that rain, who knows how long they're going to wait when they could have just kept going." And then it hit me!! In life we all go through storms, heavy storms where you can't see where your foot is going to land. Some of us choose to wait it out, stay in the storm, some even camp there. All in the name of waiting it out, waiting for it to get better. But what if you...