Always, Always, Always the Single Friend

Society has painted out singleness as a disease. A dreaded disease that one should avoid at all costs. A disease that says that nobody wants you because something is wrong with you. Because it seems like everybody has someone. It seems like being a young adult and being single is a sign that something is missing from your life, that you’re not whole until you’ve found someone. And it always seems like whenever you’re single, everybody else is in a relationship.

When single you have two choices, the first being that you can live vicariously through your friends, or you can learn to be content being single. That sounds a bit crazy, doesn’t it? The words ‘content’ and ‘single’ in one sentence? The truth is that your season of singleness is actually a very important phase that is filled with lots of lessons and preparation. Are you actually using this season to prepare yourself or are you just waiting for the next season of your life to begin?

What happens if you remain single for the next 5 years? What happens if you never get married?  Are you going to remain unhappy for that entire time or are you actually going to start being content with what you have right now? Some people make the mistake of rushing into relationships, not having prepared for them and wonder where the problem lies when things don’t work out. The truth is that nothing that you go through happens by chance. There is a lesson, a skill, some form of preparation in there somewhere. Because when you don’t take preparation seriously, you fail the test.

As a single Christian the question that I’ve had to ask myself is that if I am not content right now with just God then what will the addition of a relationship do for me? Because God is more than enough, He is all that we need and more. So if all what you’re waiting for is for a relationship so that you can be happy, what does that say about what you’re setting you’re eyes on? I shared a post by Pastor Steven Furtick the other day that said that until Jesus is enough for you, no person or thing ever will be. And it’s the truth. Our first love, the person that’s supposed to get all of our attention and affection, is our Creator.


So if you’re in your single season, I just want to encourage you and say that use this time to get to know your Creator. Use this time to fall in love with the One that has loved you since before the beginning. Use this time to fulfil the assignments that He has set out before you. Be content with what you have now. 
I am an Occupational Therapist by profession, but I have many roles that bring meaning to my life. In short, I love people, books and love.

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