Tenacity to Purpose

Have you ever heard a lot about a particular person & then when you met them they turned out to be the opposite of what you expected? Have you ever found that your experience of them did not match the story that you heard? As people we created narratives all the time. Narratives about ourselves and our family. We do this when it comes to our work life, our social circle, everything. These narratives are the way in which we choose to understand and present certain situations and events in our lives. The same can be done with the different people in our life.   I think one needs to always be aware of the narrative that they are creating about different areas of your life. We need to be able to nonjudgmentally question and analyse some of the stories that we have created about certain parts of our lives. As humans we tend to shift to the “lack” mentality whenever we are trying to achieve something and it isn’t working out, or when we realise that we are missing something in our ...

I am a shapeshifter.  Always have been.  It's a skill I learned From a young age.  As a kid I learned the importance of speaking My mind , just not in Front of elders.  So, I can be as quiet As a church mouse And then be able to Give my opinion Very decidedly,  Given the right audience.  I am a shapeshifter.  I am able to move Between the different Roles that I play In my life.  I can go from being the Therapist with the Listening ear,  To being the best friend That vents and cries Over voicenotes.  I am a shapeshifter.  I can go from being proud To be black,  To being tired of being black.  Because it's tiring to be Black in this world sometimes.  I go from being proud Of being a woman,  To feeling like I'm being Punished.  Because apparently being A woman is a crime worthy Of punishment.  I am a shapeshifter.  Working hard to be An independent,  goal driven woman.  But wanting to be a ...

A couple of months ago, I was faced with a maintenance issue in my flat. It escalated so quickly that I needed someone to immediately come and help me because it was now an emergency. Because this unfortunate event happened after hours, nobody had a permit to work at night, which meant that I had to nurse the situation until morning, until a professional could come and fix it. A lot of the times when we are in emergency situations it is easy to be inconsolable and if we do not have the right people there willing to help us, it can become a mess really quick. Immediately I contacted the closest people to me, both physically and emotionally, and explained the situation. In that moment I did not feel alone in the situation even though I was physically alone. So I got through the night and had someone lined up to come and fix it first thing in the morning. Immediately when the kind handyman showed up, he knew exactly what the problem was and he was able to fix it in less than 30 minutes....