Dear Recovering People Pleaser


Building a new habit is not always as easy as they make it to seem.
21 days, they say. Surely it can’t be that easy.
Because when you’re a recovering people pleaser, anything can be a trigger.
The urge to go back to your old ways will sometimes be so strong, that you need to call a
friend to remind you of who you have become.

The road to recovery is filled with lots of guilt and shame, because how dare you put 
your needs before other’s!?
How dare you stop letting other’s words dictate your actions, your life!?
How dare you do what makes you happy!?
How dare you take back your power!?

When you’re a recovering people pleaser, anything can be a trigger.
The words of a loved one.
The need to feel understood.
The craving to be accepted.
Sometimes it can be as simple as not wanting to say “no” to a “fairly reasonable request”.

But remember why you are here in the first place.
Remember why you chose to go to rehab.
Remember the freedom that you have experienced as a result of no longer being 
an addict to the fake validation.
Remember how it cleared out all the fake people, the leeches that only took & gave nothing back.
Remember the feeling of not being drained anymore.
I know it’s hard in the moment, but try to remember.

Dear Recovering People Pleaser,
It’s still worth it.
You! Are still worth it!


I am an Occupational Therapist by profession, but I have many roles that bring meaning to my life. In short, I love people, books and love.

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