Tenacity to Purpose

"Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable. To believe vulnerability is weakness is to believe that feeling is weakness. To foreclose on our emotional life out of a fear that the costs will be too high is to walk away from the very thing that gives purpose and meaning to living." - Brené Brown In the past week I challenged myself to be more vulnerable than usual. And boy was it hard!! But I learned a really vital lesson throughout all of it. And the lesson is this: vulnerability is the key to intimacy and understanding. It is impossible to build true and lasting relationships without some level of vulnerability. Another thing that came across really clearly was that we sometimes make out vulnerability to be this huge and massive thing. When sometimes being vulnerable is saying "I'm not okay" to the question "how are you doing today?" Being honest about where you are emotionally does not have to equate to a ...

Brené Brown, the woman who said the above words, is an American scholar, author, and public speaker. She wrote a book on vulnerability (a book which I am slowly working my way through), and the courage that comes with being vulnerable. The topic of vulnerability is one that has popped up several times in the past few months, not only in my own life but in the lives of those around me.  The one thing that has really stood out for me from all of the conversations and reflections is that we are never really taught how to be vulnerable. As kids we are taught how to be strong, independent and how to look like we have it all together. But we are never taught how to be vulnerable. Have you ever thought about it?  As a result of not being taught, when most people hit their mid twenties they realise that vulnerability is key in any relationship but then find themselves in the position of not being able to know how to. Being vulnerable requires that you be open about your s...

As a full time student I sometimes find it hard to consistently have quiet time, time that is set aside specifically to be with God. This is the time I use to read through His word, pray, and meditate. Trying to live a balanced life when you have a 9 to 5 day every day, while trying to keep up with other responsibilities in life (keeping the apartment clean, cooking, visiting friends, etc.) can prove to be a challenge sometimes. But because my anchor is Jesus Christ, if I go even two days without quiet time I start unravelling. As Christians it is very important to spend time with God daily, as we can easily get sucked in by the pressures and stressors of life. I have found that we can steal away moments to be with God throughout the day. Today we'll be going through a few things that help me to stay consistent, I still fall off track sometimes but I always go back to these to help me. Let's get started!!! 1. Start Your Day with God The moment that you open your eyes in the...

I would like to introduce you to four of my really good friends. These are ladies that I've seen grow, and that have seen me grow. There's Beauty, Pertunia, Mosima and Kearabilwe, all between the ages of 21 and 24. And in this week's blog they answer some questions pertaining to singleness and their individual journeys. As discussed last week, the season of singleness can be hard one, let's find out how these ladies have dealt with the pressure of finding bae. 1. What were some of the things you learned about being single? (What are the messages you got from people around you, social media and the church?) Beauty : So as you get older, singleness becomes a hill or mountain that one needs to get over quickly (I mean as fast as you can) because everyone around you is strongly encouraging you to find or avail yourself to finding bae, even if they aren't there, there is still a bit of pressure to start thinking about it. The message on social media puts relationshi...