Tenacity to Purpose

When two worlds collide, it is exactly that. An explosion. A big bang. A head on collision. At first the impact is not felt, no, it's all butterflies and rainbows. You get lost in the genuineness in his eyes. He is still in disbelief that this is really happening. The sounds of the collision are muffuled by your declarations of love. When two people come together, it is like uprooting two oak trees so that they could be closer to each other. Along with them come all the people that have watered them when they were just seeds. The people that pruned leaves and branches. Those that used the tree for shade and didn't give thanks to the tree. When a tree is uprooted, the things once hidden are now at the surface. Vulnerability has a way of making a person go into fight or flight mode. We either stay, and put up a fight while we're at it. Or we flee and always wonder what could have been. Not only are we scared to show ourselves bare to the other person, we fear what the mir...

I love being there for the people that I love. I find so much joy and fulfillment in being available when my friends and family need me. Whether it be a phone call, or a pizza date. If you want me there, consider it done. It dawned on me a while ago that I do this because I would want that kind of treatment from them. On days when I need someone to vent to or just share good news, I would want to know that it brings them joy to make time for me. Over the past two months, I have had to spend more time with myself for the purpose of recharging my batteries. Being around people and interacting with them, is kind of what my job is all about. I love that about my job, but it can also be taxing. I don't know if you've ever heard of social exhaustion before. In an article on Psych Central, Sarah Newman writes about how introverts can burn out from too much social interaction. In the article she shares how she experienced burnout when family members came to stay with them. Hosting pe...

Transitions can be very tricky to navigate. Change is an inevitable thing that none of us can escape. Transitions can be scary, but I believe that they can be a catalyst for growth. If I had chosen to stay the same person I was 10 years ago, I would be doing an injustice to the people around me and to myself. The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines transition as a “passage from one state, stage, subject, or place to another: CHANGE” It gives a second definition that describes transition as “a movement, development, or evolution from one form, stage, or style to another.” It would great if every transition in our lives was a smooth one, unfortunately this isn’t always the case. Sometimes change can leave us with lots of anxiety due to the uncertainty of the outcome. When we transition, we move from one stage of our lives to the other. Oftentimes we cannot predict how things will pan out. That is what freaks us out the most, the lack of control we have over the transition. I went ...

In July I shared with my Instagram followers that 2018 was, and still is, my year of isolation. I think that for anybody graduating from varsity and moving to a new place, starting a new job, it requires a lot of adjusting. Whether you are moving to a rural area, or a big city, you have to find new people. New people that you can rely and depend on. As the age old saying goes, no man is an island. This year, however, has taught me that every now and again, isolation is needed. Some sort of separation from your normal routine, normal environment, normal crowd. This separation does not promise comfort. It does not promise a smooth sail. But it does promise growth, it does promise a lot of learning and unlearning, and it does promise adventure. A year ago around this time, I had just finished my final exams of my undergraduate studies. I was trying to catch up on all the sleep that I had missed out on, while trying to come to grips with the reality that I was now done with varsity. The...